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Since last month’s newsletter article, I’ve had some interesting conversations about the topic of “unconditional love” and also about my comment that unconditional love is not about doing; it is all about being. In each of these conversations I kept hearing “But ..., but ..., but ...” in my “mind’s ear,” and in each case the “but” had to do with some exception to my statement that the speaker wanted me to make in order to make themselves feel better (my interpretation alone, I assure you). So what was the substance of their objections?
First, more that one person commented that, by my definition, I implied that they had to be a martyr to love unconditionally. My reply was—and still is—“Absolutely not!” And to demonstrate that it is not just what I believe, here is what some other people have to say on the matter:
• “Unconditional love and acceptance does not mean the answer is always yes. It’s important to ask what is the most compassionate way for all concerned; sometimes the answer is a very firm ‘no.’ You can love and accept and still say ‘no.’” ~ Bill McKenna (American author)
• “We are told to love people unconditionally, but sometimes we must get rid of people unconditionally. Some people just keep slithering and oozing in through the cracks in your resolve; they refuse to respect your boundaries. No more mixed messages. You must learn how to close a door permanently. Cut, cauterize and never give them another thought. Monstrous sociopath-like disengagement is your right. Your life is worth more. Don’t waste another minute. Let them say you are awful. Block, ban, delete and disconnect. Do whatever you must to take care of yourself and don’t you dare ever feel guilty.” ~ Bryant McGill (1969-; American author, speaker and self-development, personal freedom and human rights activist)
• “You don’t get good karma by making yourself into a martyr. Learn how to stand up for yourself and your good karma will be delivered in that instant.” ~ Bryant McGill (1969-; American author, speaker and self-development, personal freedom and human rights activist)
Other people stated that I was (and I still am) placing responsibility on the individual who felt wronged, not the person who was the object of their disagreement. Guilty as charged, but let’s hear it from other sources:
• “My love is unconditional. Your action is irrelevant.” ~ Osho (1931-1990; a.k.a. Rajneesh; Indian spiritual teacher)
• “By understanding that [every] experience is nothing but a lesson in growth, one can let it go, move on to another, and another wonderful opportunity for growth. And life is full of them. Each lesson gives us new found inspiration, understanding, and breaks down the illusion of separation. You will discover not only that you are never alone, but that God is supporting your every movement, albeit in your eyes as not the best of movements. You are each doing the best you can at any given moment. The lessons of life are complicated, the fears you have brought into this life are a challenge to overcome. Life is all about learning about your soul, learning about relationships, letting go of your fear of intimacy, embracing the spiritual essence of every soul. A challenge, yes. But also a joy as you move closer to the God essence in your journey to the heart of your soul. Unconditional love, not only for yourself, but for God, for every man, woman, and child who walks the earth, and for all who live in other dimensions is the mission of life. It is also the foundation of the universe. Love for each and every one of God’s creations. That is the movement of the universe—the spiral of love, which enfolds, embraces, All that Is.” ~ Dr. James Martin Peebles (1823-1922; the Grand Spirit; 1879. In Linda Pendleton, Three Principles of Angelic Wisdom, 2000)
Some comments had to do with defining or recognizing unconditional love. So what does unconditional love “look” like?
• “True love is gentle, does not demand, does not want revenge, is not angry, can walk away without pain—and most of all—is totally unconditional.” ~ Maitreya (Channeled by Margaret McElroy; Newsletter #219, 29th December, 2008)
• “To love unconditionally requires no contracts, bargains or agreements. Love exists in the moment-to-moment flux of life.” ~ Marion Woodman (Dancing in the Flames)
• “Unconditional love is not afraid to be compassionate, to touch, kiss, and hold. Unconditional love does not hurt another. It does not cause pain or suffering. It does not lie, cheat, demand, confuse, or manipulate.” ~ Maitreya (Channeled by Margaret McElroy; Newsletter #156, July 20, 2005)
And where does one begin on their personal journey toward unconditional love?
• “Forgiveness plays a big role in loving allowance. And it begins with self. If you can learn to forgive yourself then forgiveness of others comes automatically. It, too, becomes a way of life, as natural as the sunrise every morning. Each new dawning brings a new day. Each new forgiveness brings love. Each expression of love breaks through the illusion of separation. As the illusion falls away, intimacy becomes yours. And with intimacy comes unconditional love. And with unconditional love, is the God-essence. The spiral of love moving in gallant force through the universe—spinning, turning, returning to Itself in all Its glory.” ~ Dr. James Martin Peebles (1823-1922; the Grand Spirit; in Linda Pendleton, Three Principles of Angelic Wisdom, 2000)
• “Forgive yourselves for anything you have persecuted yourself for and open up to unconditional love!” ~ Maitreya (Channeled by Margaret McElroy; Newsletter #309, April 9, 2010)
• “Once I love myself unconditionally, loving ‘another’ becomes an act of self-love.”
~ Gautama Buddha (c. 563-483 BCE; Indian spiritual teacher and founder of Buddhism)
And why is learning to love unconditionally so important for soul evolution (yet another comment)? Because unconditional love is always about Source energy. Conditional love is always all about the lower Self.
• “Unconditional love is vibrational alignment with Source, even when there is something that I don’t want happening.” … “Unconditional love is staying in the vibration of Source regardless of the condition.” ~ Abraham (Collective consciousness of Spirit as channeled by Esther Hicks)
• “When you can start learning to love yourself, then you can feel God, or whatever name you call this energy, loving you unconditionally.” ~ Maitreya (Channeled by Margaret McElroy; Maitreya Facebook Fan Page, December 17, 2012)
And it is all really quite simple despite our difficulty in learning to grow into it:
• “The awareness of tolerance, forgiveness, love, understanding, unconditional love, and being non-judgmental are the only things necessary in your world.” ~ Maitreya (Channeled by Margaret McElroy; Newsletter #207, January 2, 2008)
• “You have to grow. You have to be. You have to love yourself unconditionally.” ~ Dominic Riccitello (American inspirational actor and blogger)
• “Of course there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.” ~ Arthur Rubinstein (1886-1982; Polish-American composer & pianist)
• “Break the cycle, learn how to forgive, forget, love unconditionally, have no hate, fear, doubt or other negative emotions and you will have peace.” ~ Maitreya (Channeled by Margaret McElroy; Newsletter #54, September 9, 2002)
That’s about it. Like you, I am a work in progress. That is why each of us is here on the earth plane right now. I don’t know about you, but I am very glad to have friends and compatriots available to help me on my journey. I invite you to join the cause—now, later, or not at all, it is your choice. Welcome aboard!